Today in the world, after dating most of
the couples, the next step is the living
together with a committed relationship.
Did you ever think why this happened?
People apparently think compatibility
cannot be tested without the actual
experience of a marriage without any
legal bonds. It’s like a trial run of the
marriage. However this has a good side
as well as bad side.
Living together has more freedom to
select his or her legal life partner. Living
under one roof is more far away from
the dating. It will reveal more personal
details about each other’s. In here you
can’t hide your real situation. From this
you could easily decide what the next
fate of your relationship is. This will ease
the life of course. So if this period went
wrong, relationship would end up like
“Turning off a light”. Not much hard
feelings. But in a marriage you can’t just
“turn off this light”. And of course, in
here you have more freedom and the
very less responsibilities for both of you.
Specially for men. Generally, living
together is not much empowering for
women. It places them in a vulnerable
position, emotionally and materially, and
Women generally see moving in together
as a step toward marriage, but men tend
to regard the relationship as more of a
sexual opportunity without the bonds
and responsibilities of commitment.
In living together, love will not take
much place like in the dating or
marriage. Instead, sex and independency
will take place. On dating always you
have a hope for future; you have more
curiosity about the next step of your
relationship or what’s going on next. And
also Dating will keep alive your love, and
in a marriage too. When you have a bond
from a marriage, you always do things to
your relationship with the
responsibilities. And every time love will
take the place. After all you may pay
more attention to care about your
marriage. Coz’ you know it’s not just a
living together.
And also I believe, a couple who get
married after living together, is more
tend to be divorced than the others. It’s
because, they know how to survive after
the divorce, or how to face the society
after the divorce. They had good
experience, about the independencies. So
in one hand living together is more like
to be prepared for divorce rather than
the marriage.
But not being living together, could we
decide our next step of a relationship? Of
course you can. You have plenty of
opportunities for that in the dating. You
could talk anything, you could do
anything and you name it. Only different
is you not live under one roof with your
better half. However, if you want more
freedom and fewer responsibilities and
without bonds, only relationship with all
other benefits, answer is living together.
